Shandelle Hether-Gray

Founder, clinical director, LMHC, LCPC

Shandelle (she/her) specializes in using cognitive-behavioral therapy and solution-based approaches to help people make lasting changes to their self-image that lead to real changes in their lives. She is also trained in EMDR for the treatment of trauma. Her approach in therapy is hands on, goal-oriented, strengths based, and gender and identity affirming.

Shandelle works actively to help clients challenge unrealistic and self-limiting patterns of thinking, deconstruct who they are from who they have learned to be, learn how to feel safe and regulated in their body, cultivate options for difficult life situations that align with their values, and learn the necessary skills to meet their needs. These skills may include assertiveness, boundary setting and reinforcing, effective communication, goal setting, mindfulness, physiological relaxation, and grounding skills.

For the past several years, my practice has focused on working with adults, adolescents, and queer folx suffering from low self-esteem, perfectionism, negative self-talk, anxiety (generalized, panic, OCD, due to adjustment, trauma) depression, familial rejection, and emerging parenthood.

A little more about Shandelle. She is a queer woman, a mother to two lovely and fierce kids, and a neuroscience nerd. She has always danced and sang a little off beat. She grew up with nine siblings and is from Florida but don’t hold that against her. She also surfed, skated and played guitar in a girl band. A combination of lived experience, and experiencing anxiety and depression in her youth led her down the mental health field (yes, the “emo to therapist pipeline” is a real thing).

Outside of her work with clients, Shandelle is passionate about finding ways of spreading mental health awareness, getting resources in people's hands and tools in their toolbox. In 2020 she published a workbook on assertiveness, in hopes that it helps others find their voice, meet their needs, and improve their relationships.

Feeling nerdy? You can check out some of her publications here.

Availability

Monday — Friday
Morning, Afternoon

Location

New York
Maryland

Rates

Intake $200

Individual Therapy (after intake) $175

Clinical Supervision $75